Whew! So you made it to the party, brought the appropriate gifts, wore the right clothes,...now what? Well that depends on the kind of party.
Going to a house party? Don't be early. The party starts rocking when the people show up but Mexicans are pretty casual about time. If you play by American etiquette, you're probably thinking, "Hmm, I will get there 30 minutes early, eat some tapas, mingle..." Uh no. You will be alone with the hostess who is still cooking and hasn't changed into her outfit yet. Unless you're familiar with the Mexican way of cooking, you will be in the way. Show up 30-45 minutes after when you think the party is supposed start.
Invited to the church service before the party? They must really like you! Still, it's understandable if you don't go because depending on what the occasion is, you may be there a long, long time. Not familiar with a Catholic mass? Don't understand Spanish? Better be willing to copy someone next to you and wear something you can move in because there is a lot of kneeling and standing.
Here a some of the most common fiestas and specific survival tips.
The Birthday Party
As soon as you get there, figure out where to drop your present and grab a seat at the table. Someone will serve you a plate and you can dive in. Sometimes there is pizza for the kids but other times, they just eat what the big people get. If your kid is picky, feed them before you get there. Be prepared for lots of shrieking children running around, loud music, and some really juicy gossip.
There will be a pinata or two. The moms and kids will circle around the tree that the men have hung the pinata in and sing a cute song that tells the kid swinging the stick when his turn is over. Those that don't stop when the song ends will be dragged off the stage just like the Oscars. The main words you should try to sing are "dale, dale, dale..." pronounced "dah-lay." After that just hum until they get to the "uno,,,dos,,,tres" part which is your cue to sing "y su tiempo se acabo!" Don't worry, there will be lots of kids so you'll have plenty of time to practice. And be prepared to be shoved aside by grown women "helping" their kids get their fair share of candy. It's not quite WWE, but you'll do good to stand back.
After the pinata, goody bags are handed out to the kids filled with Mexican candy and chips. With any luck they may have also thrown in some American chocolates. Next, there will be cake and little gelatinous cups of joy with or without canned fruit. If you like tres leches cake you'll be fine, but if you have a food issue with gooey or soupy textures, just pretend to eat it. And be sure to look away after the child blows out the candles because someone is gonna smash their face in the cake. After cake, the kids get their goody bags full of candy and then once everyone is in a sugar coma, they will open presents.
The Baptism and the Presentation
Being invited to a baptism or presentation is quite an honor. There may be a special mass devoted to a child, but more likely than not, there will be several children being baptized during a regular church service. The front pews are reserved for parents, god parents (padrinos and madrinas) and family members. You will notice the traditional candle, bible, and rosary. What may surprise you is the gold necklace with a lovely pendant of La Virgen Maria, patroness of the Americas. Mexicans have a very special relationship with the Virgen so if your religion doesn't include saints and the virgen, now is not the time to talk about it.
When a child turns three years old, they are formally presented to everyone in a special mass. The children are dressed in formal outfits. The girls look like mini-princesses complete with tiara and elaborate hairstyles. The boys are often in three-piece suits with shiny shoes and slick hair. The after-party is similar to a birthday party except the young lady gets a spot light dance with all the boys her age in attendance to prep her for her 'quince' or quincenera, when she leaves childhood behind and becomes a woman. One of the highlights of these events is when the godfather and father of the child gather everyone for the coin toss. Yes, literally raining silver and green. Kids scramble, women help the kids, and everyone (hopefully) leaves with a cup full of coinage and bills. Nice, huh?
The Baby Shower
You're in for a treat if you've been invited to a baby shower. Fun and games galore not to mention food, cake, and more food await you. Don't bring your guy, but do bring your kids. No one escapes their kids at parties. The coolest thing about the baby shower are all the fun games you'll get to play. They involve toilet paper, eyeliner, baby bottles filled with juice or beer, diapers, safety pins, cooking utensils, and clothes pins. Intrigued? I bet you are, but you'll find no spoilers here. Oh, one more thing. Wear something comfortable because you may have to crawl on the floor.
We'll save quinceneras and weddings for another time. Just know that you'll be in for the long haul if you accompany the family to the mass and then the party that will rock on well into the night. And Mexico is a very diverse country with many regional customs. Depending on where your hosts are from parties could last the whole weekend and be steeped in traditions older than the hills.
Going to a house party? Don't be early. The party starts rocking when the people show up but Mexicans are pretty casual about time. If you play by American etiquette, you're probably thinking, "Hmm, I will get there 30 minutes early, eat some tapas, mingle..." Uh no. You will be alone with the hostess who is still cooking and hasn't changed into her outfit yet. Unless you're familiar with the Mexican way of cooking, you will be in the way. Show up 30-45 minutes after when you think the party is supposed start.
Invited to the church service before the party? They must really like you! Still, it's understandable if you don't go because depending on what the occasion is, you may be there a long, long time. Not familiar with a Catholic mass? Don't understand Spanish? Better be willing to copy someone next to you and wear something you can move in because there is a lot of kneeling and standing.
Here a some of the most common fiestas and specific survival tips.
The Birthday Party
As soon as you get there, figure out where to drop your present and grab a seat at the table. Someone will serve you a plate and you can dive in. Sometimes there is pizza for the kids but other times, they just eat what the big people get. If your kid is picky, feed them before you get there. Be prepared for lots of shrieking children running around, loud music, and some really juicy gossip.
There will be a pinata or two. The moms and kids will circle around the tree that the men have hung the pinata in and sing a cute song that tells the kid swinging the stick when his turn is over. Those that don't stop when the song ends will be dragged off the stage just like the Oscars. The main words you should try to sing are "dale, dale, dale..." pronounced "dah-lay." After that just hum until they get to the "uno,,,dos,,,tres" part which is your cue to sing "y su tiempo se acabo!" Don't worry, there will be lots of kids so you'll have plenty of time to practice. And be prepared to be shoved aside by grown women "helping" their kids get their fair share of candy. It's not quite WWE, but you'll do good to stand back.
After the pinata, goody bags are handed out to the kids filled with Mexican candy and chips. With any luck they may have also thrown in some American chocolates. Next, there will be cake and little gelatinous cups of joy with or without canned fruit. If you like tres leches cake you'll be fine, but if you have a food issue with gooey or soupy textures, just pretend to eat it. And be sure to look away after the child blows out the candles because someone is gonna smash their face in the cake. After cake, the kids get their goody bags full of candy and then once everyone is in a sugar coma, they will open presents.
The Baptism and the Presentation
Being invited to a baptism or presentation is quite an honor. There may be a special mass devoted to a child, but more likely than not, there will be several children being baptized during a regular church service. The front pews are reserved for parents, god parents (padrinos and madrinas) and family members. You will notice the traditional candle, bible, and rosary. What may surprise you is the gold necklace with a lovely pendant of La Virgen Maria, patroness of the Americas. Mexicans have a very special relationship with the Virgen so if your religion doesn't include saints and the virgen, now is not the time to talk about it.
When a child turns three years old, they are formally presented to everyone in a special mass. The children are dressed in formal outfits. The girls look like mini-princesses complete with tiara and elaborate hairstyles. The boys are often in three-piece suits with shiny shoes and slick hair. The after-party is similar to a birthday party except the young lady gets a spot light dance with all the boys her age in attendance to prep her for her 'quince' or quincenera, when she leaves childhood behind and becomes a woman. One of the highlights of these events is when the godfather and father of the child gather everyone for the coin toss. Yes, literally raining silver and green. Kids scramble, women help the kids, and everyone (hopefully) leaves with a cup full of coinage and bills. Nice, huh?
The Baby Shower
You're in for a treat if you've been invited to a baby shower. Fun and games galore not to mention food, cake, and more food await you. Don't bring your guy, but do bring your kids. No one escapes their kids at parties. The coolest thing about the baby shower are all the fun games you'll get to play. They involve toilet paper, eyeliner, baby bottles filled with juice or beer, diapers, safety pins, cooking utensils, and clothes pins. Intrigued? I bet you are, but you'll find no spoilers here. Oh, one more thing. Wear something comfortable because you may have to crawl on the floor.
We'll save quinceneras and weddings for another time. Just know that you'll be in for the long haul if you accompany the family to the mass and then the party that will rock on well into the night. And Mexico is a very diverse country with many regional customs. Depending on where your hosts are from parties could last the whole weekend and be steeped in traditions older than the hills.